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“Casual Encounters” are hardly casual, due to the risks involved meeting with complete strangers. Yet thousands of people around the world are safely connecting with others on Craigslist for discreet sexual experiences. Even now, someone somewhere is posting their message within this category of the Personals section, detailing exactly the kind of man or woman […]

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“Casual Encounters” are hardly casual, due to the risks involved meeting with complete strangers. Yet thousands of people around the world are safely connecting with others on Craigslist for discreet sexual experiences. Even now, someone somewhere is posting their message within this category of the Personals section, detailing exactly the kind of man or woman (or both) for which they’ve been searching, as well as flirtatiously describing themselves, with or without an embedded picture for everyone to see.

Everyone is searching for particular connections in life, and casual dating is merely a simplified method for real people to refine and broadcast their hunt. Considering the thousands of people in your area alone — most of whom you never approach for personal requests, be them intimate or not — what better way to attract those with whom you could genuinely connect than a platform like Craigslist? What harm is there in posting a few sentences about what you want and who you are, especially since you can remain completely anonymous? (That is, until you’ve flirted your heart out and finally become comfortable arranging a rendezvous with your stranger of choice!)

Though hesitant at first, I myself have responded to a few posts, two of which turned into fascinating experiences that undoubtedly helped shape who I am today.

Exhibit A

My first casual encounter was with a woman named Vanessa (names have been changed), an attractive, young library sciences grad student. Both sci-fi junkies in our mid-twenties who were searching for a relationship with some substance, our timing seemed impeccable. After flirting and hinting over email for almost week — not to mention inventing a fictitious cover story that involved previously meeting at an art opening so our friends wouldn’t judge too harshly — we eventually decided to meet for drinks. Five beers and a pack of cigarettes later, both of us decided that we’d be better off as friends. Even though we’ve since changed locations, now and again one of us will text the other with bad jokes and crazy coincidences resulting from our Craigslist experience, none of our friends the wiser.

Exhibit B

Joyce was a former-dominatrix-turned-activist, an independent woman and aspiring novelist wanting to discreetly satisfy her lustful urges with an attractive, respectful, disease-free, intelligent person whom she could hopefully dominate — and that person eventually turned out to be me. Both moving in a few months, neither of us sought a lasting emotional relationship, but rather an outlet to explore and experiment physically within a safe environment. Inevitably, after a handful of evening visits, we said our goodbyes and parted ways, but out of our experience together came a wealth of fantasies that I still rehash when reminiscing about my sexual history.

As we continue to develop as individuals and better use the Internet to actively pursue our desires, whether searching for meaningful friendships or meaningless sex, what we must always remember is that real people live behind their steamy, endearing posts, secure behind their computers, comfortable enough to flirt with disaster for a few boring days and forge connections that could (like mine) send ripples through the rest of our lives. Casual encounters? Hardly!

The post Casual Encounters: Strangers Connecting on Craigslist appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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“Casual Encounters” are hardly casual, due to the risks involved meeting with complete strangers. Yet thousands of people around the world are safely connecting with others on Craigslist for discreet sexual experiences. Even now, someone somewhere is posting their message within this category of the Personals section, detailing exactly the kind of man or woman […]

The post Casual Encounters: Strangers Connecting on Craigslist appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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“Casual Encounters” are hardly casual, due to the risks involved meeting with complete strangers. Yet thousands of people around the world are safely connecting with others on Craigslist for discreet sexual experiences. Even now, someone somewhere is posting their message within this category of the Personals section, detailing exactly the kind of man or woman (or both) for which they’ve been searching, as well as flirtatiously describing themselves, with or without an embedded picture for everyone to see.

Everyone is searching for particular connections in life, and casual dating is merely a simplified method for real people to refine and broadcast their hunt. Considering the thousands of people in your area alone — most of whom you never approach for personal requests, be them intimate or not — what better way to attract those with whom you could genuinely connect than a platform like Craigslist? What harm is there in posting a few sentences about what you want and who you are, especially since you can remain completely anonymous? (That is, until you’ve flirted your heart out and finally become comfortable arranging a rendezvous with your stranger of choice!)

Though hesitant at first, I myself have responded to a few posts, two of which turned into fascinating experiences that undoubtedly helped shape who I am today.

Exhibit A

My first casual encounter was with a woman named Vanessa (names have been changed), an attractive, young library sciences grad student. Both sci-fi junkies in our mid-twenties who were searching for a relationship with some substance, our timing seemed impeccable. After flirting and hinting over email for almost week — not to mention inventing a fictitious cover story that involved previously meeting at an art opening so our friends wouldn’t judge too harshly — we eventually decided to meet for drinks. Five beers and a pack of cigarettes later, both of us decided that we’d be better off as friends. Even though we’ve since changed locations, now and again one of us will text the other with bad jokes and crazy coincidences resulting from our Craigslist experience, none of our friends the wiser.

Exhibit B

Joyce was a former-dominatrix-turned-activist, an independent woman and aspiring novelist wanting to discreetly satisfy her lustful urges with an attractive, respectful, disease-free, intelligent person whom she could hopefully dominate — and that person eventually turned out to be me. Both moving in a few months, neither of us sought a lasting emotional relationship, but rather an outlet to explore and experiment physically within a safe environment. Inevitably, after a handful of evening visits, we said our goodbyes and parted ways, but out of our experience together came a wealth of fantasies that I still rehash when reminiscing about my sexual history.

As we continue to develop as individuals and better use the Internet to actively pursue our desires, whether searching for meaningful friendships or meaningless sex, what we must always remember is that real people live behind their steamy, endearing posts, secure behind their computers, comfortable enough to flirt with disaster for a few boring days and forge connections that could (like mine) send ripples through the rest of our lives. Casual encounters? Hardly!

The post Casual Encounters: Strangers Connecting on Craigslist appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Are you alone? Are you lonely? It’s quite possible and natural to be alone at times. Maybe you intentionally live alone–that doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel lonely. The other day I ran into an acquaintance at the local coffee shop. He asked how I was doing, then immediately asked me if I was married […]

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Are you alone? Are you lonely? It’s quite possible and natural to be alone at times. Maybe you intentionally live alone–that doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel lonely.

The other day I ran into an acquaintance at the local coffee shop. He asked how I was doing, then immediately asked me if I was married yet! His response to my answer of no was to offer his sympathies. He seemed surprised and then went on to reassure me that things would be OK, that the right man was out there somewhere.

It never occurred to this man that I might not mind being alone.

Anyone who’s been in a bad relationship knows that feeling lonely isn’t necessarily tied to being single, or living alone.  The dictionary defines lonely as being without company, cut off from others, not frequented by human beings or sad from being alone. I had plenty of loneliness in my marriage, it was about not connecting with my husband.

Over the weekend I got a letter from a reader who shared her post-divorce story with me. What I picked up on was her loneliness.  It’s not unusual at the end of a relationship to find oneself overwhelmed by the circumstances. A divorce or the death of a partner brings so many changes–often sad or bitter. Leaving your house, losing friends to the ‘ex’ and other unavoidable changes. It’s a lot to handle and the emotional aspect complicates everything. It feels like the adjustment period will never end. There are options, as simplistic as that sounds.

Certain rituals can trigger a sense of loneliness – for me it used to be Friday night. For some reason it feels like date night to me. Others may find sleeping in an empty bed or having morning coffee alone brings up those kinds of feelings. The activities you did with a partner are loaded with emotions and become difficult to face alone.

What do you do? Certainly thinking about your ex in someone else’s arms or comparing your new living quarters to the house you lost is only going to make you feel more miserable. I got past my Friday night doldrums by making it into a special night. I would stop at the store on the way home from work and pick up ingredients for a nice dinner. Maybe adding a bottle of wine and a good video. I focused on doing something that kept my attention–a specific activity I could enjoy. It helped. And, it was much better than sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

It helps to sort out what it’s like to be alone as opposed to feeling lonely.  Merriam-Webster defines loneliness as producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation. I absolutely agree. You can talk yourself into feeling that loneliness. A sort of self-induced “Woe is me”.

Is There An Answer To Feeling Lonely?

There is no magic answer. Sorry. I’ve been there and many of you have as well. I could offer up some trite statements like “choose to love life” or “fake it til you make it”. That’s insulting. You may not have chosen to be alone. Maybe you lost your house or had to face a partner’s affair. Your partner of 25 years died. Your lifestyle suddenly changed. The friends turned out to be less loyal than you thought. And, on and on.

It hurts. And, only time will ease your pain. But, you can take concrete steps to build a new life–to feel less lonely. At the very least you can find other things to do while you’re adjusting.

Is Online Dating The Answer?

Not necessarily. I can’t really tell you what to do. No one can. Online dating may not be what you need. And, again maybe you’ll instantly meet the right woman or man and live happily ever after! I can tell you that if you rush in trying to find a cure for loneliness while you’re still a mess, bitter and frustrated, it will show. Get yourself in a better place or at the very least keep all your angst and hurt out of your dating profile.

Online dating has a lot of rejection built in. Unfortunately you may find that people don’t respond to your emails. You might go for days with no activity–normal, but if you’re already dealing with feelings of rejection this is going to make it feel even worse. At first.

Learning How To Accept Being Alone

Why not work on finding other things to do as a single person?  The first step is to isolate that moment when you feel the most lonely? Is it a specific time, like my Friday evenings? Or is it an activity? See if you can figure out times or events that trigger the feelings. Write them down. Next, just start writing down some ideas of things to do. Be as wild or frivolous as you want. You’re just exploring at this point.

Let’s say that Sunday afternoon you and your wife always read the paper together. That’s the event you want to deal with.  What can you do?

Our bodies and our brains hold memories. We get into patterns that become like second nature. And when we associate pleasant memories with those habits, they become more difficult to let go of. If those old habits trigger a sense of loneliness we have to change them. Slowly, gradually, the pain associated with the loss begins to lessen.

We each have the power to define our lives. We have the power to put our own labels on our emotions. Our emotions can rule us or we can take control of them. You feel lonely on Sunday afternoons. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud. “I miss _______, Sundays are difficult.” And figure out little ways to make it more bearable.

One of the first steps is to acknowledge the moment. Then reshape it. Literally and figuratively.

“I am alone, but I am coping”.

“I am alone and I find that I actually enjoy reading the paper the way I want to”.

“I am alone and it’s not so bad.”

There is no magic pill to erase the loneliness. We accept it, embrace it and we let it go. Six weeks, 6 months, a year.

How are you coping? What do you do that’s new and different?

The post How We Get Used To Being Alone appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Are you alone? Are you lonely? It’s quite possible and natural to be alone at times. Maybe you intentionally live alone–that doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel lonely. The other day I ran into an acquaintance at the local coffee shop. He asked how I was doing, then immediately asked me if I was married […]

The post How We Get Used To Being Alone appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Are you alone? Are you lonely? It’s quite possible and natural to be alone at times. Maybe you intentionally live alone–that doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel lonely.

The other day I ran into an acquaintance at the local coffee shop. He asked how I was doing, then immediately asked me if I was married yet! His response to my answer of no was to offer his sympathies. He seemed surprised and then went on to reassure me that things would be OK, that the right man was out there somewhere.

It never occurred to this man that I might not mind being alone.

Anyone who’s been in a bad relationship knows that feeling lonely isn’t necessarily tied to being single, or living alone.  The dictionary defines lonely as being without company, cut off from others, not frequented by human beings or sad from being alone. I had plenty of loneliness in my marriage, it was about not connecting with my husband.

Over the weekend I got a letter from a reader who shared her post-divorce story with me. What I picked up on was her loneliness.  It’s not unusual at the end of a relationship to find oneself overwhelmed by the circumstances. A divorce or the death of a partner brings so many changes–often sad or bitter. Leaving your house, losing friends to the ‘ex’ and other unavoidable changes. It’s a lot to handle and the emotional aspect complicates everything. It feels like the adjustment period will never end. There are options, as simplistic as that sounds.

Certain rituals can trigger a sense of loneliness – for me it used to be Friday night. For some reason it feels like date night to me. Others may find sleeping in an empty bed or having morning coffee alone brings up those kinds of feelings. The activities you did with a partner are loaded with emotions and become difficult to face alone.

What do you do? Certainly thinking about your ex in someone else’s arms or comparing your new living quarters to the house you lost is only going to make you feel more miserable. I got past my Friday night doldrums by making it into a special night. I would stop at the store on the way home from work and pick up ingredients for a nice dinner. Maybe adding a bottle of wine and a good video. I focused on doing something that kept my attention–a specific activity I could enjoy. It helped. And, it was much better than sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

It helps to sort out what it’s like to be alone as opposed to feeling lonely.  Merriam-Webster defines loneliness as producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation. I absolutely agree. You can talk yourself into feeling that loneliness. A sort of self-induced “Woe is me”.

Is There An Answer To Feeling Lonely?

There is no magic answer. Sorry. I’ve been there and many of you have as well. I could offer up some trite statements like “choose to love life” or “fake it til you make it”. That’s insulting. You may not have chosen to be alone. Maybe you lost your house or had to face a partner’s affair. Your partner of 25 years died. Your lifestyle suddenly changed. The friends turned out to be less loyal than you thought. And, on and on.

It hurts. And, only time will ease your pain. But, you can take concrete steps to build a new life–to feel less lonely. At the very least you can find other things to do while you’re adjusting.

Is Online Dating The Answer?

Not necessarily. I can’t really tell you what to do. No one can. Online dating may not be what you need. And, again maybe you’ll instantly meet the right woman or man and live happily ever after! I can tell you that if you rush in trying to find a cure for loneliness while you’re still a mess, bitter and frustrated, it will show. Get yourself in a better place or at the very least keep all your angst and hurt out of your dating profile.

Online dating has a lot of rejection built in. Unfortunately you may find that people don’t respond to your emails. You might go for days with no activity–normal, but if you’re already dealing with feelings of rejection this is going to make it feel even worse. At first.

Learning How To Accept Being Alone

Why not work on finding other things to do as a single person?  The first step is to isolate that moment when you feel the most lonely? Is it a specific time, like my Friday evenings? Or is it an activity? See if you can figure out times or events that trigger the feelings. Write them down. Next, just start writing down some ideas of things to do. Be as wild or frivolous as you want. You’re just exploring at this point.

Let’s say that Sunday afternoon you and your wife always read the paper together. That’s the event you want to deal with.  What can you do?

Our bodies and our brains hold memories. We get into patterns that become like second nature. And when we associate pleasant memories with those habits, they become more difficult to let go of. If those old habits trigger a sense of loneliness we have to change them. Slowly, gradually, the pain associated with the loss begins to lessen.

We each have the power to define our lives. We have the power to put our own labels on our emotions. Our emotions can rule us or we can take control of them. You feel lonely on Sunday afternoons. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud. “I miss _______, Sundays are difficult.” And figure out little ways to make it more bearable.

One of the first steps is to acknowledge the moment. Then reshape it. Literally and figuratively.

“I am alone, but I am coping”.

“I am alone and I find that I actually enjoy reading the paper the way I want to”.

“I am alone and it’s not so bad.”

There is no magic pill to erase the loneliness. We accept it, embrace it and we let it go. Six weeks, 6 months, a year.

How are you coping? What do you do that’s new and different?

The post How We Get Used To Being Alone appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In a perfect world, the dude you’ve been crushing on would come put you out of your misery by taking out the guess-work. “Hey, what’s up. I’m into you.” Your current parade of sleepless, agonizing nights would end and if Mr.Direct wasn’t into you, you’d quickly be able to move on to his sexy, more […]

The post How To Tell If A Guy Really Likes You – Clear Signs He Is Into You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In a perfect world, the dude you’ve been crushing on would come put you out of your misery by taking out the guess-work. “Hey, what’s up. I’m into you.” Your current parade of sleepless, agonizing nights would end and if Mr.Direct wasn’t into you, you’d quickly be able to move on to his sexy, more interesting buddy. But that wouldn’t be much fun, would it? There’s a certain thrill that comes along with meeting someone new; the complicated part is figuring out a way to decode his behaviors without coming off as a complete over analytical psycho.

Signs He Is Into You

Little to no delay in response

There are times he’s really in a meeting. But every other time you contact him, you get a response within minutes. Do you know how easy it is to ignore a text if you’re not interest? Really fucking easy.

Small surprises & random references

If he’s able to pick up on the little things, like, for example, you’re obsession with green m&ms, it shows he’s actually listening. Let’s be honest, we’ve all seen a man’s power to mentally mute out people that don’t interest him.

Decreased personal space

Showing him something on the computer and having him lean in a little closer than usual – while still being far enough to feel each other’s presence – is a sure sign he’s diggin’ your personal space. If you see him doing this with the smelly, overweight secretary too, however, he might just have poor eye sight.

Prolonged ‘accidental’ touching

You’re sitting next to each other at the weekly staff meeting and your legs accidentally touch… and they keep accidentally touching. There’s something so exciting about knowing you’re both thinking the same thing: oh my god, we’re so close!

Eye contact

If he holds a gaze while your talking, he’s genuinely interested in what you have to say and he wants you to know it. Either that or he wants to kill you. I like the former option… for this particular article.

Teasing

Some guys are natural tease-balls and do it to every vagina around in order to get attention. If, however, he teases you and only you, we’re dealing with an evolved playground sandbox crush tactic.

Subtle comments about other women

Some guys are completely incapable of complimenting a woman directly; beating around the bush is a lot safer. Here’s an example, “I hate girls that rely on their tits to get ahead. Good to know smart women still get noticed, like your presentation last week.. you totally earned that promotion!”

Across a crowded room

If you catch him sneaking a peek across a crowded room – and not in a serial killer way – chances are he’s either checking you out or wanting you to know he’s into you.

Publicly compliments you

What a high it is for him to watch you blush from his handy work. He wants you to know he’s not only paying attention to how amazing you are, but he wants the entire world to know it too.

What’s up encrypted Facebook status updates and tweets?

Careful with this one. If there are little hints here and there you know refer to you and only youthen go ahead: squeal and jump up and down while no one is looking.

Singles you out

His way of calling attention to you.

Lengthy you-make-me-nervous-messages

Some guys lack the confidence we fantasize about and what often begins as a message left by the Brawny man mutates into one left by a teen boy with acne whose balls haven’t dropped; he likes you, baby.

The post How To Tell If A Guy Really Likes You – Clear Signs He Is Into You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In a perfect world, the dude you’ve been crushing on would come put you out of your misery by taking out the guess-work. “Hey, what’s up. I’m into you.” Your current parade of sleepless, agonizing nights would end and if Mr.Direct wasn’t into you, you’d quickly be able to move on to his sexy, more […]

The post How To Tell If A Guy Really Likes You – Clear Signs He Is Into You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In a perfect world, the dude you’ve been crushing on would come put you out of your misery by taking out the guess-work. “Hey, what’s up. I’m into you.” Your current parade of sleepless, agonizing nights would end and if Mr.Direct wasn’t into you, you’d quickly be able to move on to his sexy, more interesting buddy. But that wouldn’t be much fun, would it? There’s a certain thrill that comes along with meeting someone new; the complicated part is figuring out a way to decode his behaviors without coming off as a complete over analytical psycho.

Signs He Is Into You

Little to no delay in response

There are times he’s really in a meeting. But every other time you contact him, you get a response within minutes. Do you know how easy it is to ignore a text if you’re not interest? Really fucking easy.

Small surprises & random references

If he’s able to pick up on the little things, like, for example, you’re obsession with green m&ms, it shows he’s actually listening. Let’s be honest, we’ve all seen a man’s power to mentally mute out people that don’t interest him.

Decreased personal space

Showing him something on the computer and having him lean in a little closer than usual – while still being far enough to feel each other’s presence – is a sure sign he’s diggin’ your personal space. If you see him doing this with the smelly, overweight secretary too, however, he might just have poor eye sight.

Prolonged ‘accidental’ touching

You’re sitting next to each other at the weekly staff meeting and your legs accidentally touch… and they keep accidentally touching. There’s something so exciting about knowing you’re both thinking the same thing: oh my god, we’re so close!

Eye contact

If he holds a gaze while your talking, he’s genuinely interested in what you have to say and he wants you to know it. Either that or he wants to kill you. I like the former option… for this particular article.

Teasing

Some guys are natural tease-balls and do it to every vagina around in order to get attention. If, however, he teases you and only you, we’re dealing with an evolved playground sandbox crush tactic.

Subtle comments about other women

Some guys are completely incapable of complimenting a woman directly; beating around the bush is a lot safer. Here’s an example, “I hate girls that rely on their tits to get ahead. Good to know smart women still get noticed, like your presentation last week.. you totally earned that promotion!”

Across a crowded room

If you catch him sneaking a peek across a crowded room – and not in a serial killer way – chances are he’s either checking you out or wanting you to know he’s into you.

Publicly compliments you

What a high it is for him to watch you blush from his handy work. He wants you to know he’s not only paying attention to how amazing you are, but he wants the entire world to know it too.

What’s up encrypted Facebook status updates and tweets?

Careful with this one. If there are little hints here and there you know refer to you and only youthen go ahead: squeal and jump up and down while no one is looking.

Singles you out

His way of calling attention to you.

Lengthy you-make-me-nervous-messages

Some guys lack the confidence we fantasize about and what often begins as a message left by the Brawny man mutates into one left by a teen boy with acne whose balls haven’t dropped; he likes you, baby.

The post How To Tell If A Guy Really Likes You – Clear Signs He Is Into You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Recently, the good people at “Le Cabaret”, a top Vegas gentleman’s club, approached Loveawake with an intriguing proposition. Would we like to visit the club, meet some of their entertainers and get the scoop on what it takes to impress that lovely lady dancing in front of you? We could only answer “Yes!” We can’t tell you everything that happened, […]

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Recently, the good people at “Le Cabaret”, a top Vegas gentleman’s club, approached Loveawake with an intriguing proposition. Would we like to visit the club, meet some of their entertainers and get the scoop on what it takes to impress that lovely lady dancing in front of you? We could only answer “Yes!” We can’t tell you everything that happened, but here are four wonderful women we met—who graciously posed for pics—along with their unforgettable advice.

OLIVIA

  1. Be Realistic

“I’m attracted to someone at least once a night. How often do I really like a guy? Blue moon. Depends on your conversation, and if the guy’s honest and not f**kin’ around. It happens once or twice a year, maybe. I’m picky.”

  1. Be Human

“Treat me like a regular person. Most guys are like: ‘Wait, you actually have emotions? You wanna talk and do stuff? You actually wear clothes? Wow…’ If you treat us like humans it’s going to be a better experience for everyone, whether you’re trying to ask us out or not.”

  1. Reserve Judgment

“The biggest misconception guys have is that we’re all liars. Some strippers are full of sh**—that’s how they make their money. But for me, it’s easier not to be. I don’t have to remember my lies, I don’t have to remember that I said I was from Hawaii last time. I don’t have time for that. My ass makes up for it, relax.”

  1. Be Good

“I see scumbags all day long, so I probably appreciate a man more than most women do. When you find a good one, you f**kin’ hang onto that motherf**ker. You cook for him, you clean for him, you take care of him, don’t cheat, don’t lie. That’s me, though. I don’t know about anybody else.”

  1. Be Natural

“I like hairy chests. I hate when guys shave their chests. It pisses me off. It’s disgusting, and I hate it. I need my man fur. Real men have chest hair, because you have to run your fingers through it when you’re sleeping with them. You can manscape down below, but that’s about it.”

BEVERLY

  1. Have a Good Wingman

“The best dogs to attract girls are French bulldogs, Boston terriers, masculine-looking Pomeranians. If you have a really small dog in a baby sack, I question your masculinity. I’ll still stop and talk, but if you asked me out, I’d be like, ‘Wow, you sure you don’t want to meet my brother?’ ”

  1. Flash the Cash

“Getting a room for multiple hours and buying a bottle of champagne is highly recommended. If someone’s serious about dating me, show me the money, and I’ll show you the goods. When a guy spends a lot of money, it just gets me so horny, and I’m even sluttier, and I don’t even have to be drunk or anything. I will love you and treat you like a king.”

  1. Play Hard to Get

“Save up all your money, blow it all on one night, make an impression, and then disappear, like, ‘I’m too busy.” That’ll keep me calling you for more. You gotta play the role—it’ll drive a girl crazy.

  1. Be Careful What You Wish For

“Guys think dating a stripper is hot at first, but when they get feelings, they get weird because they don’t want to share you with everybody. They become jealous and possessive, they don’t want you to work, they try paying you not to. Sometimes it’s better to just be friends with benefits.”

  1. Leave It At the Door

“If you’re going to date me, you have to be cool. Don’t even think about me being a stripper. Leave it at the door. Say you dated someone who worked at the morgue. I don’t necessarily want to hear how you embalm people every day. You can tell that to your bartender.”

CHRISTINA

  1. Be Real

“Of course I’m attracted to guys who come in. And it’s scary because I never know how serious he takes me. Before I go out with a guy, I wanna know about their life: real age, real occupation, whether they’re actually single. And you’ve gotta come back and show that you’re really interested. Not that you were just really drunk that night.”

  1. Be Honest

“So many guys when they ask me out, they say it’s their first time in a strip club. They always say that. They don’t wanna seem to be a regular. And that’s one of the biggest turnoffs, when they lie like that.”

  1. Be Positive

“Most guys talk really bad about their ex-girlfriends or ex-wives, or overwhelm the girls with their problems. Like his dog is sick and he’s gonna talk about it for two hours. I feel like a psychologist in my underwear. That doesn’t work.”

  1. Be Respectful

“Most guys think that girls who are entertainers are very stupid. Most of these girls have a college degree. They read books, speak multiple languages, travel the world, watch the Discovery Channel. We’re much more intelligent than guys think we are. Don’t assume anything until you get to know the girl.”

  1. Be Classy

“When guys go out with a girl on the first date, they shouldn’t wear shorts and get drunk, and then expect us to want to come back and see him again. No way. You gotta bring your A game to the first date.”

ALEX

  1. Believe What You See

“I am who I am, outside and in the club. But I dress a little differently when I’m not here, ha ha. I like a skimpy short dress—classy but very sexy.”

  1. But Don’t Be Naïve

“I’m really friendly, but I don’t usually go out with guys I meet here. If I know somebody a couple days, I’m telling him, ‘if you like me, I would like to hang out with you… here.’ ”

  1. Take It Easy

“I don’t like when guys pressure me, ‘we should go out, we should go out,’ when I’ve known them five minutes. That’s not right. I need to know somebody more. It’s not the best way.”

  1. Keep It Simple

“When somebody likes me, I like when they say, ‘When are you working next time? I want to see you.’ That’s always nice. If I see you more often, I feel more comfortable and more of a connection.”

  1. Be Funny, Friendly and Nice

“Of course I’m attracted to people that come in, I’m a girl. I’m most attracted if you’re funny, friendly and nice.”

At the request of the girls, the names have been changed.

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Recently, the good people at “Le Cabaret”, a top Vegas gentleman’s club, approached Loveawake with an intriguing proposition. Would we like to visit the club, meet some of their entertainers and get the scoop on what it takes to impress that lovely lady dancing in front of you? We could only answer “Yes!” We can’t tell you everything that happened, […]

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Recently, the good people at “Le Cabaret”, a top Vegas gentleman’s club, approached Loveawake with an intriguing proposition. Would we like to visit the club, meet some of their entertainers and get the scoop on what it takes to impress that lovely lady dancing in front of you? We could only answer “Yes!” We can’t tell you everything that happened, but here are four wonderful women we met—who graciously posed for pics—along with their unforgettable advice.

OLIVIA

  1. Be Realistic

“I’m attracted to someone at least once a night. How often do I really like a guy? Blue moon. Depends on your conversation, and if the guy’s honest and not f**kin’ around. It happens once or twice a year, maybe. I’m picky.”

  1. Be Human

“Treat me like a regular person. Most guys are like: ‘Wait, you actually have emotions? You wanna talk and do stuff? You actually wear clothes? Wow…’ If you treat us like humans it’s going to be a better experience for everyone, whether you’re trying to ask us out or not.”

  1. Reserve Judgment

“The biggest misconception guys have is that we’re all liars. Some strippers are full of sh**—that’s how they make their money. But for me, it’s easier not to be. I don’t have to remember my lies, I don’t have to remember that I said I was from Hawaii last time. I don’t have time for that. My ass makes up for it, relax.”

  1. Be Good

“I see scumbags all day long, so I probably appreciate a man more than most women do. When you find a good one, you f**kin’ hang onto that motherf**ker. You cook for him, you clean for him, you take care of him, don’t cheat, don’t lie. That’s me, though. I don’t know about anybody else.”

  1. Be Natural

“I like hairy chests. I hate when guys shave their chests. It pisses me off. It’s disgusting, and I hate it. I need my man fur. Real men have chest hair, because you have to run your fingers through it when you’re sleeping with them. You can manscape down below, but that’s about it.”

BEVERLY

  1. Have a Good Wingman

“The best dogs to attract girls are French bulldogs, Boston terriers, masculine-looking Pomeranians. If you have a really small dog in a baby sack, I question your masculinity. I’ll still stop and talk, but if you asked me out, I’d be like, ‘Wow, you sure you don’t want to meet my brother?’ ”

  1. Flash the Cash

“Getting a room for multiple hours and buying a bottle of champagne is highly recommended. If someone’s serious about dating me, show me the money, and I’ll show you the goods. When a guy spends a lot of money, it just gets me so horny, and I’m even sluttier, and I don’t even have to be drunk or anything. I will love you and treat you like a king.”

  1. Play Hard to Get

“Save up all your money, blow it all on one night, make an impression, and then disappear, like, ‘I’m too busy.” That’ll keep me calling you for more. You gotta play the role—it’ll drive a girl crazy.

  1. Be Careful What You Wish For

“Guys think dating a stripper is hot at first, but when they get feelings, they get weird because they don’t want to share you with everybody. They become jealous and possessive, they don’t want you to work, they try paying you not to. Sometimes it’s better to just be friends with benefits.”

  1. Leave It At the Door

“If you’re going to date me, you have to be cool. Don’t even think about me being a stripper. Leave it at the door. Say you dated someone who worked at the morgue. I don’t necessarily want to hear how you embalm people every day. You can tell that to your bartender.”

CHRISTINA

  1. Be Real

“Of course I’m attracted to guys who come in. And it’s scary because I never know how serious he takes me. Before I go out with a guy, I wanna know about their life: real age, real occupation, whether they’re actually single. And you’ve gotta come back and show that you’re really interested. Not that you were just really drunk that night.”

  1. Be Honest

“So many guys when they ask me out, they say it’s their first time in a strip club. They always say that. They don’t wanna seem to be a regular. And that’s one of the biggest turnoffs, when they lie like that.”

  1. Be Positive

“Most guys talk really bad about their ex-girlfriends or ex-wives, or overwhelm the girls with their problems. Like his dog is sick and he’s gonna talk about it for two hours. I feel like a psychologist in my underwear. That doesn’t work.”

  1. Be Respectful

“Most guys think that girls who are entertainers are very stupid. Most of these girls have a college degree. They read books, speak multiple languages, travel the world, watch the Discovery Channel. We’re much more intelligent than guys think we are. Don’t assume anything until you get to know the girl.”

  1. Be Classy

“When guys go out with a girl on the first date, they shouldn’t wear shorts and get drunk, and then expect us to want to come back and see him again. No way. You gotta bring your A game to the first date.”

ALEX

  1. Believe What You See

“I am who I am, outside and in the club. But I dress a little differently when I’m not here, ha ha. I like a skimpy short dress—classy but very sexy.”

  1. But Don’t Be Naïve

“I’m really friendly, but I don’t usually go out with guys I meet here. If I know somebody a couple days, I’m telling him, ‘if you like me, I would like to hang out with you… here.’ ”

  1. Take It Easy

“I don’t like when guys pressure me, ‘we should go out, we should go out,’ when I’ve known them five minutes. That’s not right. I need to know somebody more. It’s not the best way.”

  1. Keep It Simple

“When somebody likes me, I like when they say, ‘When are you working next time? I want to see you.’ That’s always nice. If I see you more often, I feel more comfortable and more of a connection.”

  1. Be Funny, Friendly and Nice

“Of course I’m attracted to people that come in, I’m a girl. I’m most attracted if you’re funny, friendly and nice.”

At the request of the girls, the names have been changed.

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A simple text message is the most convenient and risk-free way to communicate with a crush. You can think about what you want to say, reach them immediately, and give them time to respond. It’s a totally easy way to put yourself out there, and if they don’t respond, you can just tell yourself that […]

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A simple text message is the most convenient and risk-free way to communicate with a crush. You can think about what you want to say, reach them immediately, and give them time to respond. It’s a totally easy way to put yourself out there, and if they don’t respond, you can just tell yourself that they didn’t receive it. More importantly, it can be done in loud places where a phone call wouldn’t work — places like, say, I don’t know … a bar?

These days, alcohol and texting go together like peanut butter and jelly — except peanut butter and jelly is a great idea. PB&J is a delicious symbiotic relationship that benefits all involved. Alcohol and texting benefit no one. Best case scenario: it results in some booty. Worst case scenario: do I really need to give you one? Think for five seconds. You already know.

It’s not easy to put away your phone when you’ve had a couple of cocktails.Here are ten ways to get yourself to stop drunken texting:

Know your limit. 

Your technological self-control limit, that is. How many shots would you take before slurring to your friend, “I’m a leeeeetle bit drunk?” Subtract one drink. When you hit that number, you need to make the next responsible decision….

Give up your phone!

So obvious, yet so hard to do. But friends don’t let friends drunken text. Give your phone to a friend who doesn’t like your crush, or one who can resist your drunken whining. If you’re sooo popular, she can check it for other calls and texts twice an hour. Tell her — when sober! — that no matter how much you complain, she is only to return the phone to you when it becomes a matter of safety (like you are hopping in a cab home). Sure, you might text from your bed, but it can’t hurt to stave it off for a few hours.

“And then my future wife drunk texted me” is not a phrase men often say.

Are you playing for more than a booty call? (Be honest.) Well, then stop your little fingers right there. Texting at 1 a.m. is going to make you look like a boozy floozy. Remember, can’t turn a ho into a housewife.

Remember that you are a verbal human being.

One who deserves real, face-to-face contact. This involves more than 150 characters. When you limit yourself to “wat r u doin?” and “u r 2 sexxy,” you’re downplaying the fact that you can, you know, hold a real conversation. Text speak makes you look dumb. Not “sexxy.”

Delete certain numbers from your phone. (And don’t memorize them, smarty pants.)

This is especially important if you’re fond of telling your ex off after a few Bud Lights. If you’re worried about not having their number for the rest of your life, write it down somewhere and put it someplace safe. Simply not seeing their name when you scroll through your contacts will make it easier to resist sending that text.

Think about what you really want to achieve.

And then remember that no text likely ever achieved that. Most of us text because we want attention and validation from our crush. The truth is, a text can’t provide that — something you’ll realize when doubt creeps in the next morning. It might make you feel good in the moment, but you’ll feel even better when that attention comes sober, during waking hours.

Text someone else instead.

If your fingers are just itching, or you’re really that bored, and you have to text someone, text a friend. Have a code word — the acronym “TYNH” is good. (Texting you, not him!) Doing that for 15 minutes might kick the craving.

You don’t need to “just tell him this one thing ’cause it’s really funny and kind of an inside joke we have.”

All lies.

Think of him showing your text to all his friends.

Imagine him taking his out Blackberry while watching the game with his buddies and announcing to all of them what you’ve just written. Is that the girl you want to be? You’re working hard to make him and his pals think you’re cool and special. Don’t negate all that with some ridiculous T9 action.

Appreciate the moment.

Stash your phone for an hour with the goal of living in the moment. Talk to the friend you’re with about her new job. Play pool. Talk to the cute bartender (who likely isn’t going to strike up a conversation with a girl who spends her whole night texting). When you’re so involved with your phone, you’re not involved with the people around you. The more fun you’re having with them, the less interest you’ll have in texting.

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A simple text message is the most convenient and risk-free way to communicate with a crush. You can think about what you want to say, reach them immediately, and give them time to respond. It’s a totally easy way to put yourself out there, and if they don’t respond, you can just tell yourself that […]

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A simple text message is the most convenient and risk-free way to communicate with a crush. You can think about what you want to say, reach them immediately, and give them time to respond. It’s a totally easy way to put yourself out there, and if they don’t respond, you can just tell yourself that they didn’t receive it. More importantly, it can be done in loud places where a phone call wouldn’t work — places like, say, I don’t know … a bar?

These days, alcohol and texting go together like peanut butter and jelly — except peanut butter and jelly is a great idea. PB&J is a delicious symbiotic relationship that benefits all involved. Alcohol and texting benefit no one. Best case scenario: it results in some booty. Worst case scenario: do I really need to give you one? Think for five seconds. You already know.

It’s not easy to put away your phone when you’ve had a couple of cocktails.Here are ten ways to get yourself to stop drunken texting:

Know your limit. 

Your technological self-control limit, that is. How many shots would you take before slurring to your friend, “I’m a leeeeetle bit drunk?” Subtract one drink. When you hit that number, you need to make the next responsible decision….

Give up your phone!

So obvious, yet so hard to do. But friends don’t let friends drunken text. Give your phone to a friend who doesn’t like your crush, or one who can resist your drunken whining. If you’re sooo popular, she can check it for other calls and texts twice an hour. Tell her — when sober! — that no matter how much you complain, she is only to return the phone to you when it becomes a matter of safety (like you are hopping in a cab home). Sure, you might text from your bed, but it can’t hurt to stave it off for a few hours.

“And then my future wife drunk texted me” is not a phrase men often say.

Are you playing for more than a booty call? (Be honest.) Well, then stop your little fingers right there. Texting at 1 a.m. is going to make you look like a boozy floozy. Remember, can’t turn a ho into a housewife.

Remember that you are a verbal human being.

One who deserves real, face-to-face contact. This involves more than 150 characters. When you limit yourself to “wat r u doin?” and “u r 2 sexxy,” you’re downplaying the fact that you can, you know, hold a real conversation. Text speak makes you look dumb. Not “sexxy.”

Delete certain numbers from your phone. (And don’t memorize them, smarty pants.)

This is especially important if you’re fond of telling your ex off after a few Bud Lights. If you’re worried about not having their number for the rest of your life, write it down somewhere and put it someplace safe. Simply not seeing their name when you scroll through your contacts will make it easier to resist sending that text.

Think about what you really want to achieve.

And then remember that no text likely ever achieved that. Most of us text because we want attention and validation from our crush. The truth is, a text can’t provide that — something you’ll realize when doubt creeps in the next morning. It might make you feel good in the moment, but you’ll feel even better when that attention comes sober, during waking hours.

Text someone else instead.

If your fingers are just itching, or you’re really that bored, and you have to text someone, text a friend. Have a code word — the acronym “TYNH” is good. (Texting you, not him!) Doing that for 15 minutes might kick the craving.

You don’t need to “just tell him this one thing ’cause it’s really funny and kind of an inside joke we have.”

All lies.

Think of him showing your text to all his friends.

Imagine him taking his out Blackberry while watching the game with his buddies and announcing to all of them what you’ve just written. Is that the girl you want to be? You’re working hard to make him and his pals think you’re cool and special. Don’t negate all that with some ridiculous T9 action.

Appreciate the moment.

Stash your phone for an hour with the goal of living in the moment. Talk to the friend you’re with about her new job. Play pool. Talk to the cute bartender (who likely isn’t going to strike up a conversation with a girl who spends her whole night texting). When you’re so involved with your phone, you’re not involved with the people around you. The more fun you’re having with them, the less interest you’ll have in texting.

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My email went something like this, “You may have noticed that I haven’t shared my first name yet. It’s very unusual and I like to be a little careful in the early stages. When we talk I will want to call from a blocked number.  While I can be spontaneous and like taking a few […]

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My email went something like this, “You may have noticed that I haven’t shared my first name yet. It’s very unusual and I like to be a little careful in the early stages. When we talk I will want to call from a blocked number.  While I can be spontaneous and like taking a few risks here and there, I do believe in being safe, particularly at the beginning.”

And that was it. He never even bothered to reply. (Why is it that online people seem to think manners don’t matter? ) It was a no-go in many ways from the beginning so I didn’t lose any sleep over it.  Just a few moments of irritation. He’s 40, I’m 57. Military, conservative. No way we were really going to have much in common.

I can’t stress enough the importance of  safety for over 50 women and men using online dating sites. Or men and women of any age, really. Even when you feel pretty sure the person of interest is harmless! I hold back on giving out my name–it is my right to do so. And, when I explain why I’m going to call from a blocked number, I expect him to understand and respect my need to be cautious. If he doesn’t get it, a little warning flag goes up.

It is important to take precautions in the getting-to-know-you stages of meeting a man or woman on an online dating site, even for those of us over 50. It is a well-knows fact that most online dating sites don’t screen their members. In the beginning you have absolutely no idea of who you are corresponding with!

What ‘my’ guy  didn’t realize is that at the end of a successful phone call I would have given him my phone number and my full name. I’m not trying to be mysterious or overly rigid. I’m just being careful.

It’s about taking care of yourself. If this eager man or woman is sincerely interested in you, he should want to honor your requests. A failure to make accommodations at this point is an indicator of future issues.

Let me tell you about Scott. Great guy–good looking, smart. He met a woman and quickly gave her his full name and other personal details. They had a couple of dates but Scott wasn’t feeling the connection and decided to stop seeing her.  She didn’t take it well. He woke up one morning to discover her sitting on his front steps. It happened more than once and finally he was forced to call the police.

There has to be a balance. You want to share information as you begin to establish some sense of compatibility.  Yet, it is important to be careful about rushing the process. The only one who can look out for your safety is you. One of the best ways is by controlling how much and when we share.

Do you have any rules about giving out personal information?

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My email went something like this, “You may have noticed that I haven’t shared my first name yet. It’s very unusual and I like to be a little careful in the early stages. When we talk I will want to call from a blocked number.  While I can be spontaneous and like taking a few […]

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My email went something like this, “You may have noticed that I haven’t shared my first name yet. It’s very unusual and I like to be a little careful in the early stages. When we talk I will want to call from a blocked number.  While I can be spontaneous and like taking a few risks here and there, I do believe in being safe, particularly at the beginning.”

And that was it. He never even bothered to reply. (Why is it that online people seem to think manners don’t matter? ) It was a no-go in many ways from the beginning so I didn’t lose any sleep over it.  Just a few moments of irritation. He’s 40, I’m 57. Military, conservative. No way we were really going to have much in common.

I can’t stress enough the importance of  safety for over 50 women and men using online dating sites. Or men and women of any age, really. Even when you feel pretty sure the person of interest is harmless! I hold back on giving out my name–it is my right to do so. And, when I explain why I’m going to call from a blocked number, I expect him to understand and respect my need to be cautious. If he doesn’t get it, a little warning flag goes up.

It is important to take precautions in the getting-to-know-you stages of meeting a man or woman on an online dating site, even for those of us over 50. It is a well-knows fact that most online dating sites don’t screen their members. In the beginning you have absolutely no idea of who you are corresponding with!

What ‘my’ guy  didn’t realize is that at the end of a successful phone call I would have given him my phone number and my full name. I’m not trying to be mysterious or overly rigid. I’m just being careful.

It’s about taking care of yourself. If this eager man or woman is sincerely interested in you, he should want to honor your requests. A failure to make accommodations at this point is an indicator of future issues.

Let me tell you about Scott. Great guy–good looking, smart. He met a woman and quickly gave her his full name and other personal details. They had a couple of dates but Scott wasn’t feeling the connection and decided to stop seeing her.  She didn’t take it well. He woke up one morning to discover her sitting on his front steps. It happened more than once and finally he was forced to call the police.

There has to be a balance. You want to share information as you begin to establish some sense of compatibility.  Yet, it is important to be careful about rushing the process. The only one who can look out for your safety is you. One of the best ways is by controlling how much and when we share.

Do you have any rules about giving out personal information?

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Just now we have published an article about the 10 types of women to avoid. In the interest of fairness we’re providing this list of 10 types of guys to avoid. The Guy Who’s Newly Out of a Relationship. Rebound, transition, whatever you want to call it, that’s what he’s in the midst of. Men, […]

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Just now we have published an article about the 10 types of women to avoid. In the interest of fairness we’re providing this list of 10 types of guys to avoid.

The Guy Who’s Newly Out of a Relationship.

Rebound, transition, whatever you want to call it, that’s what he’s in the midst of. Men, don’t take on some poor unsuspecting female because you’re lonely. Take some time, heal your wounds, and then start dating again. Most women won’t be very patient to a guy’s newly found commitment phobia anyway.

The Guy Who Never Has Any Money.

Women like guys who can take care of themselves and have at least a little money for dating. And unless you are incredible in bed, unbelievably charismatic, financially creative, or are about to become the next big rock star, not having money will not win over the chicks. You don’t have to have a lot. Champagne on a blanket by the beach is a date as is breakfast and an afternoon of rollerblading. Women don’t necessarily want rich men, but they definitely don’t want men whose bills they will eventually end up paying.

The Guy Who Can’t Stop Talking About his Ex’s.

It’s boring, it’s unromantic, it shows you are not over your last relationship. Nothing is more of a turn off than your past love experiences gone bad. Save the war stories for your buddies at the bar and show your new date that you are interested in her.

The Guy Who Keeps in Touch with All His Ex’s.

Dump the ex’s as friends if you want a new relationship. It’s a total turn off and shows you may have some separation anxiety by needing to surround yourself with women you have slept with. Most woman won’t put up with that scenario for long either.

The Guy who Says I Love You too Soon.

In a word, needy and kind of creepy. It’s really impossible to truly love someone until you’ve spent a lot of time with them. Lust is instant. So while I lust you is okay, I love you starts a ball rolling that you can’t stop. Relationships take time, save the “L” word for when you are ready to take the next step.

The Guy Who Blames Everyone Else for the Problems in his Life.

This goes for chicks, too. Dump this type immediately. They are selfish, unaccountable, immature and will drag you down with them. If a person can’t take responsibility for what they create in their life imagine what fun they would be to live with.

The Guy Who Won’t Take No for an Answer.

Control Freak. You tell him you’re busy, he keeps on you until you say yes with promises that he’ll make it worth your while. This may work once or twice, but no one wants to be controlled. This is an immediate turn-off for women and it’s best to take it slow and respect someone’s else’s needs and schedule.

The Guy Who Claims to Be Worth Millions.

Fellas, if you got the goods it’s tacky to broadcast it and may make some women only be interested in, well, your money. And if you’re lying you’re hurting your chances of having a real relationship because the facade will eventually come back to bite you. By focusing so much of who you are on what you’re worth other people will also focus more on your financial status than you. And if you fib about it, it screams insecurity and feelings of not being good enough and will make women run the other way.

The Guy Who Has the Almost “Too Close” Realtionship with his Mom.

It’s just plain wierd and your date will see the future of her taking second chair to your nosey, invasive mother. Distance is key in this situation. If you can’t say no to your Mom you will be hearing a lot of women say no to you. And last but not least.

The Guy Who Still Lives At Home Past the Age of 21.

Dude, get a job and move out whatever it takes. Even if she can sleep over, she will grow tired of your lack of independence, motivation, and ambition. She would rather have champagne on the beach then dinner with your folks.

 

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Just now we have published an article about the 10 types of women to avoid. In the interest of fairness we’re providing this list of 10 types of guys to avoid.

The Guy Who’s Newly Out of a Relationship.

Rebound, transition, whatever you want to call it, that’s what he’s in the midst of. Men, don’t take on some poor unsuspecting female because you’re lonely. Take some time, heal your wounds, and then start dating again. Most women won’t be very patient to a guy’s newly found commitment phobia anyway.

The Guy Who Never Has Any Money.

Women like guys who can take care of themselves and have at least a little money for dating. And unless you are incredible in bed, unbelievably charismatic, financially creative, or are about to become the next big rock star, not having money will not win over the chicks. You don’t have to have a lot. Champagne on a blanket by the beach is a date as is breakfast and an afternoon of rollerblading. Women don’t necessarily want rich men, but they definitely don’t want men whose bills they will eventually end up paying.

The Guy Who Can’t Stop Talking About his Ex’s.

It’s boring, it’s unromantic, it shows you are not over your last relationship. Nothing is more of a turn off than your past love experiences gone bad. Save the war stories for your buddies at the bar and show your new date that you are interested in her.

The Guy Who Keeps in Touch with All His Ex’s.

Dump the ex’s as friends if you want a new relationship. It’s a total turn off and shows you may have some separation anxiety by needing to surround yourself with women you have slept with. Most woman won’t put up with that scenario for long either.

The Guy who Says I Love You too Soon.

In a word, needy and kind of creepy. It’s really impossible to truly love someone until you’ve spent a lot of time with them. Lust is instant. So while I lust you is okay, I love you starts a ball rolling that you can’t stop. Relationships take time, save the “L” word for when you are ready to take the next step.

The Guy Who Blames Everyone Else for the Problems in his Life.

This goes for chicks, too. Dump this type immediately. They are selfish, unaccountable, immature and will drag you down with them. If a person can’t take responsibility for what they create in their life imagine what fun they would be to live with.

The Guy Who Won’t Take No for an Answer.

Control Freak. You tell him you’re busy, he keeps on you until you say yes with promises that he’ll make it worth your while. This may work once or twice, but no one wants to be controlled. This is an immediate turn-off for women and it’s best to take it slow and respect someone’s else’s needs and schedule.

The Guy Who Claims to Be Worth Millions.

Fellas, if you got the goods it’s tacky to broadcast it and may make some women only be interested in, well, your money. And if you’re lying you’re hurting your chances of having a real relationship because the facade will eventually come back to bite you. By focusing so much of who you are on what you’re worth other people will also focus more on your financial status than you. And if you fib about it, it screams insecurity and feelings of not being good enough and will make women run the other way.

The Guy Who Has the Almost “Too Close” Realtionship with his Mom.

It’s just plain wierd and your date will see the future of her taking second chair to your nosey, invasive mother. Distance is key in this situation. If you can’t say no to your Mom you will be hearing a lot of women say no to you. And last but not least.

The Guy Who Still Lives At Home Past the Age of 21.

Dude, get a job and move out whatever it takes. Even if she can sleep over, she will grow tired of your lack of independence, motivation, and ambition. She would rather have champagne on the beach then dinner with your folks.

 

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The subject of women – who to pursue and who to avoid – has been discussed, fought-over, dissected, and eventually the conclusions are passed-down from generation to generation. What every guys should know are the women you should never consider dating, even remotely seriously. Sure, there are probably thousands of Internet-fueled “lists” of women to […]

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The subject of women – who to pursue and who to avoid – has been discussed, fought-over, dissected, and eventually the conclusions are passed-down from generation to generation. What every guys should know are the women you should never consider dating, even remotely seriously. Sure, there are probably thousands of Internet-fueled “lists” of women to avoid. I am assuming the task of compiling a “Top 10” list from my experiences and will try very hard not to regurgitate many of the hack, gender-specific generalizations (see: cat lady). I’m going for originality here.I hope this list helps you identify and avoid the hell-spawn that walk among us. Consider yourself warned. Ten Types Of Women To Avoid

  1. The “Has‑a‑Boyfriend‑but‑They‑Break‑up‑Once‑a‑Week” type. You know this girl. She dumps Bob, she takes Bob back.  An endless cycle.  She is in an abusive/unhappy relationship and she is in over her head.  Her Ike Turner suitor screws up big time, her friends keep her away from him and succeed in getting her back in regular circulation. And youmeet her at the nightclub, where she’s vamping it up and throwing them down. Looks like an easy hook up! Not so fast, Kemo Sabe. This gal is just plain evil. She is just looking for a quick fix and will subsequently ruin your life. Especially if she develops into our second favorite type…
  2. The “My-Ex-is-Stalking-Me-Now” type. Locks are changed. Cell phone screening follows. This woman is especially dangerous if the “ex” in question has had any official military training, a penchant for guns or knives, or watches Ultimate Fighting on even a semi-regular basis. I don’t want to admit to how many times I have driven my date back to her home only to hear “Oh crap! {Insert formidable name here} is home. Drop me off down the street please.” Forget her address. Forget her phone number.  Hell, forget her name! This can manifest itself into more drama than the series finale of “Friends.”  Remember them?
  3. The “1am-Drunk-Phone-Call” type. Note: there is very little that a person could possibly want to talk meaningfully about at 1am. I know, because I make phone calls at 1am. I think the approved topics are limited to “sex” and “my car is broken down, I need a ride.” 99 percent of the time, her car is peachy. This is certainly not the worst woman in the world, but probably not marriage material, either. You may also include “the 1am knock at the door” type in this category. Again, this generally takes the car issue out of the equation, unless she was having sex with some guy in your neighborhood and her car broke down.
  4. The Chronic Complainer. Seems to find fault with just about everything, whining almost constantly about every topic on Earth. This is especially true if the topic of her daily bitchsertation is about her job. Like you really (deep down) like your job?!? Come on. And if she bitches about her  “ex boyfriend”? Consider that you will very soon be her next ex-boyfriend.
  5. The Compulsive Crier. Crying, in general, should be limited to semi-serious bodily injuries, family crises, and when the pooch kicks the bucket in “Old Yeller.” Nobody should be crying over spilled milk, saving that for sadder moments, like spilled beer. This woman is readily-identified by puffy red eyes, smeared eye-liner, and an ample supply of tissues in her purse. If you see a woman in this state at the end of the bar or walking out of a Pauly Shore movie, run away.
  6. The Rubberband, also Known as Bi-polar, type. It is one thing to be moody once a month on a previously determined schedule with an estimated duration of three to five days. That’s biology.  It is entirely another thing to have your soul mate buy you an X-Box one day and then club you with it the next. These are the types of girls that you always break up with in public places. Chuck E. Cheese works perfectly. Two hundred and fifty thousand screaming kids can drown out one screaming woman… usually. These women are almost always passionate, but so was that diaper-wearing astro-nut who drove from non-stop from Texas to Florida for a little “alone time” with her cheating flyboy lover.
  7. The Cling-on type. This is the girl who is on you like a wet blanket from the first date forward and calls you 4 times a day just to say “Hi” and follows it up with 15 text messages with stupid smiley faces. Sure, she intends to be sweet, but when she goes “Stage 5 Clinger” on you?  It’s a whole new level of separation anxiety. Litmus Test I: To find out if you are dating this woman, after sex tell her to do your dishes. This will end 98% of all relationships, but at least you’ll know.
  8. The Ultimatum, or “Do this or I’m Leaving You,” type. A strong woman is one thing. One who slaps ultimatums on you is a whole new classification of a woman to avoid. Ultimatums may work, depending on the situation. Assertive women are a natural and often positive part of female evolution. Litmus Test II: If she insists you stop frequenting strip clubs or the relationship is over, she has a point. Not an Ultimatum Girl. However, if she insists that you can’t meet your buddies at Hooters to watch the game or else you’re sleeping on the sofa when you get back home, then go get yourself a pickle jar and some formaldehyde – you’re gonna need a place to store those testicles of yours for the rest of your life.
  9. The “Liberated, but You Still Pay for Everything” type. All I ask is that they make a choice. You want me to open doors? Done. You want me to pick up the check? My pleasure. But if she insists on driving the car, then she pays for the gas. It’s the girl who flip-flops on you like John Kerry during election season that will drive you crazy. If Hillary becomes president, will Bubba still drive the remote control?
  10. The “Time Bomb” type. This woman comes in different shapes and mental states. Tell-tale phrases to come out of her all-too-scary mouth are, “So…when do you want to get married?” and “How many children do you want?” We barely know each other, you think. Often these questions arise when you’re deciding whether or not you want fries or onion rings.

Honorable Mentions

The “I’ve Got a Plan” type. The one who has planned her entire life from beginning to end. “I’ll be married by the time I’m this age, have kids by this age, etc. blah blah blah.” She starts talking like this, you tell her you also have a plan – to leave.

The “Always Pissed-Off” type. Hot as she is, you can just see from across the room that she’s always pissed off, angry, mean to people, especially guys she’s dating. Trust your gut even if she’s shoving her tongue in your mouth. You can still sleep with her, but only once. OK, maybe twice.

I realize that stereotyping is bad. Stereotyping is ignorant and shameful. Ster-eo-typing isn’t quite so bad. Because I, Ster, know that what I’m about to say is, in fact, culled from actual women I have dated and is therefore, not ignorant. I speak the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Ok, it’s still bad.

But that said, every woman on this list did send my life into ruin, to varying degrees. Yet I press on. I’m still committed to finding that special person, just not so “special” that she rode the short bus to school. However, please allow for this preface:

  1. All women who are 35 and older and have never been married are seeing a shrink. If not, they should be.
  2. All men who fail to classify “their gal” into any category only to have it blow up in their face? They deserved it.
  3. For every psycho, nutburger gal, there are 20-30 men that couldn’t give a rip if she has a nice ass.

Bold statements? Massive generalizations? Yeah, kinda. But my list of 10 types of women that fall into distinct categories is back with he assertions with nothing but rhetoric and misleading statements that only an actively-dating single guy could truly appreciate.

And now to add a new phrase to American culture: “No matter how hot a girl is, somebody out there is tired of her crap!”

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The subject of women – who to pursue and who to avoid – has been discussed, fought-over, dissected, and eventually the conclusions are passed-down from generation to generation. What every guys should know are the women you should never consider dating, even remotely seriously. Sure, there are probably thousands of Internet-fueled “lists” of women to […]

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The subject of women – who to pursue and who to avoid – has been discussed, fought-over, dissected, and eventually the conclusions are passed-down from generation to generation. What every guys should know are the women you should never consider dating, even remotely seriously. Sure, there are probably thousands of Internet-fueled “lists” of women to avoid. I am assuming the task of compiling a “Top 10” list from my experiences and will try very hard not to regurgitate many of the hack, gender-specific generalizations (see: cat lady). I’m going for originality here.I hope this list helps you identify and avoid the hell-spawn that walk among us. Consider yourself warned. Ten Types Of Women To Avoid

  1. The “Has‑a‑Boyfriend‑but‑They‑Break‑up‑Once‑a‑Week” type. You know this girl. She dumps Bob, she takes Bob back.  An endless cycle.  She is in an abusive/unhappy relationship and she is in over her head.  Her Ike Turner suitor screws up big time, her friends keep her away from him and succeed in getting her back in regular circulation. And youmeet her at the nightclub, where she’s vamping it up and throwing them down. Looks like an easy hook up! Not so fast, Kemo Sabe. This gal is just plain evil. She is just looking for a quick fix and will subsequently ruin your life. Especially if she develops into our second favorite type…
  2. The “My-Ex-is-Stalking-Me-Now” type. Locks are changed. Cell phone screening follows. This woman is especially dangerous if the “ex” in question has had any official military training, a penchant for guns or knives, or watches Ultimate Fighting on even a semi-regular basis. I don’t want to admit to how many times I have driven my date back to her home only to hear “Oh crap! {Insert formidable name here} is home. Drop me off down the street please.” Forget her address. Forget her phone number.  Hell, forget her name! This can manifest itself into more drama than the series finale of “Friends.”  Remember them?
  3. The “1am-Drunk-Phone-Call” type. Note: there is very little that a person could possibly want to talk meaningfully about at 1am. I know, because I make phone calls at 1am. I think the approved topics are limited to “sex” and “my car is broken down, I need a ride.” 99 percent of the time, her car is peachy. This is certainly not the worst woman in the world, but probably not marriage material, either. You may also include “the 1am knock at the door” type in this category. Again, this generally takes the car issue out of the equation, unless she was having sex with some guy in your neighborhood and her car broke down.
  4. The Chronic Complainer. Seems to find fault with just about everything, whining almost constantly about every topic on Earth. This is especially true if the topic of her daily bitchsertation is about her job. Like you really (deep down) like your job?!? Come on. And if she bitches about her  “ex boyfriend”? Consider that you will very soon be her next ex-boyfriend.
  5. The Compulsive Crier. Crying, in general, should be limited to semi-serious bodily injuries, family crises, and when the pooch kicks the bucket in “Old Yeller.” Nobody should be crying over spilled milk, saving that for sadder moments, like spilled beer. This woman is readily-identified by puffy red eyes, smeared eye-liner, and an ample supply of tissues in her purse. If you see a woman in this state at the end of the bar or walking out of a Pauly Shore movie, run away.
  6. The Rubberband, also Known as Bi-polar, type. It is one thing to be moody once a month on a previously determined schedule with an estimated duration of three to five days. That’s biology.  It is entirely another thing to have your soul mate buy you an X-Box one day and then club you with it the next. These are the types of girls that you always break up with in public places. Chuck E. Cheese works perfectly. Two hundred and fifty thousand screaming kids can drown out one screaming woman… usually. These women are almost always passionate, but so was that diaper-wearing astro-nut who drove from non-stop from Texas to Florida for a little “alone time” with her cheating flyboy lover.
  7. The Cling-on type. This is the girl who is on you like a wet blanket from the first date forward and calls you 4 times a day just to say “Hi” and follows it up with 15 text messages with stupid smiley faces. Sure, she intends to be sweet, but when she goes “Stage 5 Clinger” on you?  It’s a whole new level of separation anxiety. Litmus Test I: To find out if you are dating this woman, after sex tell her to do your dishes. This will end 98% of all relationships, but at least you’ll know.
  8. The Ultimatum, or “Do this or I’m Leaving You,” type. A strong woman is one thing. One who slaps ultimatums on you is a whole new classification of a woman to avoid. Ultimatums may work, depending on the situation. Assertive women are a natural and often positive part of female evolution. Litmus Test II: If she insists you stop frequenting strip clubs or the relationship is over, she has a point. Not an Ultimatum Girl. However, if she insists that you can’t meet your buddies at Hooters to watch the game or else you’re sleeping on the sofa when you get back home, then go get yourself a pickle jar and some formaldehyde – you’re gonna need a place to store those testicles of yours for the rest of your life.
  9. The “Liberated, but You Still Pay for Everything” type. All I ask is that they make a choice. You want me to open doors? Done. You want me to pick up the check? My pleasure. But if she insists on driving the car, then she pays for the gas. It’s the girl who flip-flops on you like John Kerry during election season that will drive you crazy. If Hillary becomes president, will Bubba still drive the remote control?
  10. The “Time Bomb” type. This woman comes in different shapes and mental states. Tell-tale phrases to come out of her all-too-scary mouth are, “So…when do you want to get married?” and “How many children do you want?” We barely know each other, you think. Often these questions arise when you’re deciding whether or not you want fries or onion rings.

Honorable Mentions

The “I’ve Got a Plan” type. The one who has planned her entire life from beginning to end. “I’ll be married by the time I’m this age, have kids by this age, etc. blah blah blah.” She starts talking like this, you tell her you also have a plan – to leave.

The “Always Pissed-Off” type. Hot as she is, you can just see from across the room that she’s always pissed off, angry, mean to people, especially guys she’s dating. Trust your gut even if she’s shoving her tongue in your mouth. You can still sleep with her, but only once. OK, maybe twice.

I realize that stereotyping is bad. Stereotyping is ignorant and shameful. Ster-eo-typing isn’t quite so bad. Because I, Ster, know that what I’m about to say is, in fact, culled from actual women I have dated and is therefore, not ignorant. I speak the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Ok, it’s still bad.

But that said, every woman on this list did send my life into ruin, to varying degrees. Yet I press on. I’m still committed to finding that special person, just not so “special” that she rode the short bus to school. However, please allow for this preface:

  1. All women who are 35 and older and have never been married are seeing a shrink. If not, they should be.
  2. All men who fail to classify “their gal” into any category only to have it blow up in their face? They deserved it.
  3. For every psycho, nutburger gal, there are 20-30 men that couldn’t give a rip if she has a nice ass.

Bold statements? Massive generalizations? Yeah, kinda. But my list of 10 types of women that fall into distinct categories is back with he assertions with nothing but rhetoric and misleading statements that only an actively-dating single guy could truly appreciate.

And now to add a new phrase to American culture: “No matter how hot a girl is, somebody out there is tired of her crap!”

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Human beings are not wired to be monogamous creatures. It’s very rare that the partner we choose to invest our time and love in is the only person we fantasize about. I know that every single one of my boyfriends in one way or another have expressed to me how he would “hit that,” whenever they saw […]

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Human beings are not wired to be monogamous creatures. It’s very rare that the partner we choose to invest our time and love in is the only person we fantasize about. I know that every single one of my boyfriends in one way or another have expressed to me how he would “hit that,” whenever they saw an attractive woman. This is healthy and believe it or not, it plays a part in how to keep monogamy exciting.

“I am unboyfriendable because the thought of having sex with only one person freaks me the fuck out,” said a very close friend of mine. This is a common sentiment. I know many men and women who avoid being in meaningful relationships because they were afraid of getting bored with bedding only one partner.

Monogamy can be fun.

Keep Things Exciting

There are tons of ways to make having only one sexual partner fun. If you’re into visual stimulation, perhaps you might want to try adult videos. Find something you like that involves the type of people you find aesthetically pleasing, and go for it. There’s no shame in watching other couples/scenarios. There’s always the sex toys option as well. Start with the wedge.

The best part of being in a monogamous relationship is that chances are you’re comfortable with the person you’ve chosen to be intimate with. Communicate about what you want, how you want it, and where you want it. Who cares? Have sex everywhere!

Position Changes

Depending on how creative you and your partner are willing to be, there are literally thousands of positions for you to explore. Gone are the days of remaining in missionary. This is the era of the new hotness rodeo. Reverse cowgirl, the spinning X, as well as the butter churner are a few examples. Heck, go make some up! Sex is supposed to be fun, not work. Customize it to maximize your pleasure…and his.

Become His Fantasy

Imagine your man’s reaction when he comes home from a trip or a long day at work and you’ve got a single silk ribbon covering you in strategic places with the bow tied at your hip. You would literally be his present. Perhaps you’d prefer to wear his necktie with nothing else but a smile to seduce him the way he seduces you. Flip your roles, ask him about his fantasies and give him ideas about yours.

Emotional Sex Will Rock Your World

I didn’t realize until very recently what the difference between sex and loving sex is. There’s no downgrading after you care for the person you are bedding. It’s almost as if your body uses sex as a silent medium with which you communicate to your partner how you feel about them. Sure, there are different types and levels to having sex – making love, sexing, fucking, the quick and dirty; inevitably, you’ll experience all the latter in a monogamous relationship. It’s all about the chemistry between you two and how far you’re willing to take it.

Anyone and everyone who has ever said that sex is overrated is doing it wrong. Take it from the jaded ex-maneater. There’s something remarkably different about exclusively keeping that aspect of physical interaction to one person. Wait and see. You’ll meet that one person who’ll sexually blow your mind, and you might not even want anyone else.

 

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Human beings are not wired to be monogamous creatures. It’s very rare that the partner we choose to invest our time and love in is the only person we fantasize about. I know that every single one of my boyfriends in one way or another have expressed to me how he would “hit that,” whenever they saw […]

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Human beings are not wired to be monogamous creatures. It’s very rare that the partner we choose to invest our time and love in is the only person we fantasize about. I know that every single one of my boyfriends in one way or another have expressed to me how he would “hit that,” whenever they saw an attractive woman. This is healthy and believe it or not, it plays a part in how to keep monogamy exciting.

“I am unboyfriendable because the thought of having sex with only one person freaks me the fuck out,” said a very close friend of mine. This is a common sentiment. I know many men and women who avoid being in meaningful relationships because they were afraid of getting bored with bedding only one partner.

Monogamy can be fun.

Keep Things Exciting

There are tons of ways to make having only one sexual partner fun. If you’re into visual stimulation, perhaps you might want to try adult videos. Find something you like that involves the type of people you find aesthetically pleasing, and go for it. There’s no shame in watching other couples/scenarios. There’s always the sex toys option as well. Start with the wedge.

The best part of being in a monogamous relationship is that chances are you’re comfortable with the person you’ve chosen to be intimate with. Communicate about what you want, how you want it, and where you want it. Who cares? Have sex everywhere!

Position Changes

Depending on how creative you and your partner are willing to be, there are literally thousands of positions for you to explore. Gone are the days of remaining in missionary. This is the era of the new hotness rodeo. Reverse cowgirl, the spinning X, as well as the butter churner are a few examples. Heck, go make some up! Sex is supposed to be fun, not work. Customize it to maximize your pleasure…and his.

Become His Fantasy

Imagine your man’s reaction when he comes home from a trip or a long day at work and you’ve got a single silk ribbon covering you in strategic places with the bow tied at your hip. You would literally be his present. Perhaps you’d prefer to wear his necktie with nothing else but a smile to seduce him the way he seduces you. Flip your roles, ask him about his fantasies and give him ideas about yours.

Emotional Sex Will Rock Your World

I didn’t realize until very recently what the difference between sex and loving sex is. There’s no downgrading after you care for the person you are bedding. It’s almost as if your body uses sex as a silent medium with which you communicate to your partner how you feel about them. Sure, there are different types and levels to having sex – making love, sexing, fucking, the quick and dirty; inevitably, you’ll experience all the latter in a monogamous relationship. It’s all about the chemistry between you two and how far you’re willing to take it.

Anyone and everyone who has ever said that sex is overrated is doing it wrong. Take it from the jaded ex-maneater. There’s something remarkably different about exclusively keeping that aspect of physical interaction to one person. Wait and see. You’ll meet that one person who’ll sexually blow your mind, and you might not even want anyone else.

 

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With the introduction of Social Networks, like Facebook and Twitter, came a new public portal for you to bitch and moan about all your drama. Risky? Perhaps. Does it make you seem like a bit of an attention whore? Absolutely. But how much do we really need to know? What does blasting your love life all over […]

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With the introduction of Social Networks, like Facebook and Twitter, came a new public portal for you to bitch and moan about all your drama. Risky? Perhaps. Does it make you seem like a bit of an attention whore? Absolutely. But how much do we really need to know? What does blasting your love life all over social media really do?

It all began with MySpace. (Some of you might remember other sites like Friendster and Face the Jury, but this isn’t a social network recap class). Myspace was home to a whole bunch of hormone ridden teens, WrItInG LiKe ThIs, calling all attention possible to themselves. Then, Myspace experienced a quick decline and Facebook opened it’s doors to everyone in the cyber world. Eventually, you began receiving friend requests from coworkers, bosses, aunts and uncles, parents and long lost lovers.

One status update resulting in high comment rate brings you close to orgasm-like ecstasy. It’s a chance to be popular without having to do the hard work. But as soon as the hype passes, you’ve got to quickly think of something else to keep your “friends” interested.. And so begins the dirty cycle of riskier and riskier information sharing.

I bet you’re wondering why I’m writing about this – I’ve got a point, I swear. This risky information sharing gives you a sense of comfort. You begin sharing things that you wouldn’t specifically choose as the ideal topic of conversation over dinner at your parents’ house. Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more people dissing they’re partner/potential shag/date/ whatever on Twitter and Facebook. As someone who’s obsessed with observing things through a psychological lens, this is pretty fucking interesting.

Now, if you’ve got your standard “lovey dovey” crap splattered everywhere.. most people don’t tend to mind. Either they ignore it or respond with a sweet “congratulations!” Keep in mind, however, you’ll always have the bitter just-recently-heartbroken crowd wishing death upon you.. But that’s not a big deal. These sad people are usually hidden in dark corners, crying.. and yelling in whispers; you never really see or hear them.

The shit hits the fan when you start posting about your drama everywhere… and people looove the drama..

Why do you need to tell your 678 “friends” that your boyfriend can’t change no matter how hard he tries? Why do your Twitter followers need to know that you’re out, getting plastered, making a fool of yourself because your boyfriend canceled dinner plans to hang out with his friends? Do I need to know that you’re having sex problems or that he’s got mommy issues? Do you think putting it on the internet will be a more effective way of communicating your anger and frustration? Do you NEED him to see that others think what he’s doing is shady? Is this a cry for help or are you just trying to embarrass him?  YOU’RE CONFUSING ME!

In fear that I may never stop bitching, I’m going to make this article pretty raw and more of a straight to the point kind of thing.

5 THINGS WE WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR UPDATES:

  1. If you need advice there are other ways to ask for it. Select a couple of friends and ask for their advice, privately. Pay a love coach. Find people who dish out the goods for free, like myself. Your relationship is not a magazine poll to be held on a weekly basis.
  2. If you tell the world your dude’s a scumbag, how do you expect us to react when you post, “Honeybuns brought me flowers!!” We vomit and shake our heads in disapproval, that’s how.
  3. We love you and remember you exist without you constantly updating us on the status of your relationship. Limit your public cries to the BIG events like, “Well, walking in on my boyfriend and math tutor screwing is the way I like to start my week.” or the more common: “He proposed!”
  4. We aren’t dating him. We don’t need to know that he’s always late or has a problem telling the truth. This is something YOU need to come to terms with; telling the world won’t make it any less real.
  5. Despite all the negative things you post about your significant other, you’re the one that comes off being a douche.

We’re not teenagers anymore -and if there are any teen readers, let this be a rude awakening- it’s time to grow up. Stop being a coward and learn to deal with your relationship issues with the one person that REALLY needs to hear them: your partner. I understand how wonderful public support may feel in times of need but it’s only creating problems for you down the line. Imagine how you would feel if your partner blasted your every douche-like move to the rest of the world. It’s embarrassing and definitely not the best incentive to change. There are certain topics that are better left OFF the cyberworld and your relationship hurdles is one of them.

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With the introduction of Social Networks, like Facebook and Twitter, came a new public portal for you to bitch and moan about all your drama. Risky? Perhaps. Does it make you seem like a bit of an attention whore? Absolutely. But how much do we really need to know? What does blasting your love life all over […]

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With the introduction of Social Networks, like Facebook and Twitter, came a new public portal for you to bitch and moan about all your drama. Risky? Perhaps. Does it make you seem like a bit of an attention whore? Absolutely. But how much do we really need to know? What does blasting your love life all over social media really do?

It all began with MySpace. (Some of you might remember other sites like Friendster and Face the Jury, but this isn’t a social network recap class). Myspace was home to a whole bunch of hormone ridden teens, WrItInG LiKe ThIs, calling all attention possible to themselves. Then, Myspace experienced a quick decline and Facebook opened it’s doors to everyone in the cyber world. Eventually, you began receiving friend requests from coworkers, bosses, aunts and uncles, parents and long lost lovers.

One status update resulting in high comment rate brings you close to orgasm-like ecstasy. It’s a chance to be popular without having to do the hard work. But as soon as the hype passes, you’ve got to quickly think of something else to keep your “friends” interested.. And so begins the dirty cycle of riskier and riskier information sharing.

I bet you’re wondering why I’m writing about this – I’ve got a point, I swear. This risky information sharing gives you a sense of comfort. You begin sharing things that you wouldn’t specifically choose as the ideal topic of conversation over dinner at your parents’ house. Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more people dissing they’re partner/potential shag/date/ whatever on Twitter and Facebook. As someone who’s obsessed with observing things through a psychological lens, this is pretty fucking interesting.

Now, if you’ve got your standard “lovey dovey” crap splattered everywhere.. most people don’t tend to mind. Either they ignore it or respond with a sweet “congratulations!” Keep in mind, however, you’ll always have the bitter just-recently-heartbroken crowd wishing death upon you.. But that’s not a big deal. These sad people are usually hidden in dark corners, crying.. and yelling in whispers; you never really see or hear them.

The shit hits the fan when you start posting about your drama everywhere… and people looove the drama..

Why do you need to tell your 678 “friends” that your boyfriend can’t change no matter how hard he tries? Why do your Twitter followers need to know that you’re out, getting plastered, making a fool of yourself because your boyfriend canceled dinner plans to hang out with his friends? Do I need to know that you’re having sex problems or that he’s got mommy issues? Do you think putting it on the internet will be a more effective way of communicating your anger and frustration? Do you NEED him to see that others think what he’s doing is shady? Is this a cry for help or are you just trying to embarrass him?  YOU’RE CONFUSING ME!

In fear that I may never stop bitching, I’m going to make this article pretty raw and more of a straight to the point kind of thing.

5 THINGS WE WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR UPDATES:

  1. If you need advice there are other ways to ask for it. Select a couple of friends and ask for their advice, privately. Pay a love coach. Find people who dish out the goods for free, like myself. Your relationship is not a magazine poll to be held on a weekly basis.
  2. If you tell the world your dude’s a scumbag, how do you expect us to react when you post, “Honeybuns brought me flowers!!” We vomit and shake our heads in disapproval, that’s how.
  3. We love you and remember you exist without you constantly updating us on the status of your relationship. Limit your public cries to the BIG events like, “Well, walking in on my boyfriend and math tutor screwing is the way I like to start my week.” or the more common: “He proposed!”
  4. We aren’t dating him. We don’t need to know that he’s always late or has a problem telling the truth. This is something YOU need to come to terms with; telling the world won’t make it any less real.
  5. Despite all the negative things you post about your significant other, you’re the one that comes off being a douche.

We’re not teenagers anymore -and if there are any teen readers, let this be a rude awakening- it’s time to grow up. Stop being a coward and learn to deal with your relationship issues with the one person that REALLY needs to hear them: your partner. I understand how wonderful public support may feel in times of need but it’s only creating problems for you down the line. Imagine how you would feel if your partner blasted your every douche-like move to the rest of the world. It’s embarrassing and definitely not the best incentive to change. There are certain topics that are better left OFF the cyberworld and your relationship hurdles is one of them.

The post Blasting Your Love All Over Social Media appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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